"Don't let life discourage you; everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was"...Richard L. Evans
"I wake to my perceived failures & mind-edit them easily. I am aware of my internal weather systems. I stay keenly aware of negative-crayoning & make good choices for myself." ...Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
Related Words & Thoughts - default, delinquency, dereliction, neglect, oversight, laxity, negligence, remissness, slackness, indifference, unconcern
It's another day....bringing moments to build our self-image & self-esteem or to diminish them. The moments give us all sorts of opportunities, rather like little bubbles, waiting to be impregnanted with our desires & then floating out on their delivery mission. Not only to we have a multitude of opportunities to design & deliver our desires, but we do the same for others.......much of this done through our very words, thoughts & deeds, for we all mentor each other.
What goes into our moment bubbles, what we think or what we entertain is what we get back & the same goes double for failure. Unfortunately failure bubbles or mindsets are a dime a dozen. You don't have to look far to find them floating around.....bubbles set out by others or more importantly, your very own bubbles. It's rather amazing that we succeed at anything, given our usual interior weather. Look closely.. it's usually either raining, storming, blowing, snowing, cloudy or completely parched & drought-ridden.
Thoughtout this blog I've reminded you to look for emotional carriers, especially those that attempt to color your life with negative mind states. Pay attention to the word attempt. No one can do anything without your permission. Mind-underline that for yourself, for most of us tend to forget it. Just because someone in your environment is coloring in a negative fashion, you do not have to breathe it in. It's like second-hand smoke. You do not have to breathe it in. You have choices.
Even though I can't see or hear you, I have a good idea as to what you are thinking right now, the reason being that in the past, I've said most of these things to myself or to others in relation to myself OR I've heard it from others in my work as a clinical hypnotherapist.
So, let me share this with you ...
Changing mindsets is a skill, just like anything else. Think for a moment about how many things you have learned from the time you were just a baby. Take a mind-visit back to your early childhood & find the time when you simply didn't entertain failure. That time is there......so go find it & then sense yourself reconnecting. However you might like to imagine that....do it. Notice that during this time you were also independent of the negative-crayoning of others. Take your time in this area of self-exploration for it is very important & can work to change your life experiences considerably.
In short, you need to know that you can achieve things. You can work through perceived failure. You can recognize negative-emotional crayoning of others & that you can choose not to accept it.
Now about the definition of failure.... I'm sure that you already know that failing at something just means that you haven't figured out how to do it yet. That is all that it is. Now others might have more to say about it, but again, that is their negative crayoning & you already know what to do about that. In case you have forgotten, or haven't read those blog entries....when you don't want to accept negative-crayoning your task is to ...
1. notice or wake-up
2. breathe from center & relax your body
3. release the image or emotion
4. place a new mind program on your mind screen
When you experiencing a perceived failure, it's time to go back to the drawing board. For most of us, we take too big a chunk & so of course, we tend to choke. Now what would you do if you were choking on something? Well, if it were me, I'd do whatever I had to do to get the offender out of my mouth asap.
It's the same with anything else. Break the perceived failure into pieces & study them independently. It's best to do this in deep relaxation. That way, your own subconscious mind will assist you in finding a better way. If you experience mind-confusion when you try to do this.....the chunk is simply too big OR you haven't quieted the mind sufficiently.
Most of you have heard about your intuition or inner knowing. That is your subconscious mind in action. In order to take full advantage of it, you must relax very deeply & then you will be gifted with eureka break-through thoughts or ideas or serendipity. Nothing is free in life. As I tell my patients, the piper must be paid. If you want your own mind to assist you, it is up to you to change your internal weather system.
FROM THE AUTHOR
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